I was thinking about all the people I see walking around with self-assured confidence, and wondering where this comes from. Are you confident in you day-to-day life? Do you put on that, I can conquer the world mask when you walk out the door? Well, that is a lot to think about in one post and I wanted to share some of my thoughts with you about confidence.
I am probably the least confident person I know. My personality tends to lean toward, everything must be done to perfection and I am not the person that can produce perfection. Are you a perfectionist? Do you second guess yourself into not doing the things you want to do most in life? I can relate and I can maybe help you when I can’t help myself.
Start out with something you want to do more that anything in the world. Start out small so as to not get overwhelmed. Baby steps seems to be the key to our issue of not completing projects. If you mess up a baby step then it’s a small setback and you don’t have to start at the beginning again. Go back to the place where you feel confident.
My problem is my knitting, or the written word that goes with knitting pattern production. I can knit garments all day long and if I have a hiccup in the design, it’s okay take it out and try again. Writing the instructions for you to follow, to make your own garment makes me break out in hives. It takes me longer to write a sweater pattern than it does to knit the sweater. I have a room full of knitted goodies you can take a look at but can’t knit the way I knitted them because there is no written pattern.
I love half of what I do as a knitter. People have told me, that is the worst pattern I have ever seen and I have also been told that it’s a great pattern and I loved making it. You know as humans the bad part is easier to believe. I wrote a pattern when I first started and had questions about the process, the person in charge called and belittled me for asking questions. How dare you ask questions of other knitters about what you are doing, even though they knew I had no idea. I was and am still afraid of submitting patterns to this day, afraid of doing it wrong or asking the wrong questions. As a teacher of knitting I never tell someone they are doing it wrong. I try to direct them to a better path without letting them think I am taking over their process. If you have never had to try to overcome a struggle to pursue your dreams then you have no idea of the strength it takes to keep going. If you have stayed to read this rambling on about self-confidence, you will see that I am not writer and never claimed to be. Spelling and sentence structure are as foreign to me as German, but I never give up and I try everyday to do better.
If you are one of those people, that constantly point out how wrong everyone is around you, have you tried to point that person down the better path for them and not try to be the person that says look at me I am better than you. There is always something in our lives we can do better at and you may not be perfect either. When did we stop helping each other and start bragging about how great we think we are? I don’t want to be that person to make others feel bad.